You’re probably wondering can I really understand or help? I love working with people facing parental struggles because I have been there. I get it on a level that most individuals can’t without living through it. There is something deeply connective and healing when you are able to share a lived experience with someone who truly gets it. I have my own mental garden of flowers and weeds that I manage on a daily basis. We will not rely on my garden as it will be different from yours, but I want you to know that I’ve fought my way through it too. You have the resilience and strength to pick which flowers and weeds stay and which need to go.
An honest confession, the easiest way to deal with most parental issues is to smile and nod. I will not lie it is easy but it can also cause a lot of resentment and lasting pain. It took me a while to figure out that I have to pick my battles, as I cannot force others to change but I can change how I respond. I learned a ton during that process and I am happy to share that knowledge so you don’t waste time when pruning weeds out of your garden.
Because I have been through it, I know the amount of work it takes to make change happen. I work best with people who are sick of feeling guilt and shame when standing up for their needs and are willing to face those emotions head on. I know that I cannot change you. You must be the one to change you and I am thrilled to be able to support you in that journey.
Something I want to be clear on, I am not a smile and nod therapist. I am not afraid to call your BS out. We will laugh. Also, I am not afraid to talk about it ALL. Sex? Self-Doubt? Self-Harm? Negative Self-Defeating Thoughts? After years in the field I invite you shock me. Let it all out! There is nothing to be ashamed of.
I love working with people struggling with toxic and difficult parents because they tend to be compassionate, sensitive and driven people who can accomplish so much once they channel their strengths in a healthy way. I enjoy working with people of all ages, it is never to early to establish a healthy sense of self that allows people to enjoy their life. I’m grateful to be able to guide people to have a healthier relationship with themselves and live a more fulfilling life. You don’t have to let toxic parents define who you are.